Being thankful.  Grateful.  Gratitude.  Being thankful for what I do have (and not to be upset about what I don't have). The years of avoiding my family and those uncomfortable questions, was really about me focusing on what I didn't have.  My family was not all in our face about when we were going to have a baby.  Yeah, there were some isolated family members and dear friends of the family that said some less than helpful things, but overall, it was my own insecurity about our difficulty in trying to have our first child.  It was my own ungratefulness of not appreciating what we did have, but only focusing on what we didn't have.